So female xianxia novels and male xianxia novels seem to be on opposite spectrums; male ones tend to be 'if anyone offends me, I kill them', 'kill the young, come the old', and 'in the immortal world, there are only ants, fellow daoists, and seniors', while female is 'perhaps I should compromise with this hot guy', 'will they, won't they', 'I have so many jealous half-sisters and jealous stepmothers'
system isn't that necessary, but it's there so that the MC-inserting audience would find greater joy in comeuppance
the not following canon bit is rarer, MC'll have Bad End and Pain if not
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